Sooooo earlier this month, I attended a Speakeasy Unconference for LGBTQ polyamorous folk. The topic was on creating a personal user manual/guide. This guide is literally a handbook on important information that I want my partner(s) to know and be able to refer to.
Here's a breakdown of my PUG:
Section I: Personal Philosophy on Relationships
Section II: Personal Definition of Love
Section III: Love Language/Communication Style
Natal chart synastry
Section IV: Patterns I Like in Partnership
Section V: Patterns I am Moving Away From
Section VI: Identity
How I identify
How others perceive me
Things I value most about myself
Things that I feel most challenged by about myself
Section VII: Needs, Desires, Values
Section VIII: Personal Goals
Section IX: Habits and Hobbies
Section X: Favorite Things
Section XI: Family History
Section XII: Current Family Dynamics
Section XIII: Significant Experiences
So far, I've done all the way up to the Myers-Briggs portion of Section III. When I say I've been at this since like 6 am... bayyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyybe this shit is so interesting to me lol. I've already got 11 pages of information.
In the workshop, one of the things that was discussed was who gets to read your manual, and at what point. I still don't know that I'll actually bind it up into a book, but I do know that I will be sharing this with anybody who I decide to date. I highly recommend looking into creating your own so that you can clarify and articulate the things that matter to you.